Break Up Better

Breaking up is always hard..

... but when your ex is friends with most of your dating pool, as is common in polyamory, it becomes more important to do it well.

One thing that often blindsides polyamorous people is how to handle breakups. This can be especially tricky when the polyamorous partner pool is small in your community and your ex-partner might show up at your favorite happy hour, the local parent playgroup or is perhaps also dating your metamour.

Through a combination of discussion and presentation, you will learn how to think about breakups differently, which is crucial if you want to be able share a community with your ex-partners. You will also learn ways to begin, transition and end partnerships in ways that leave space for growth and healing for you and your partners and peace for your community. Strategies such as...

• One weird idea that will help you fear breakups less and possibly even prevent them altogether

• How to and why you should see a break-up as a just a transition, and a transition as a break-up

• How to confront issues that could lead to a break-up but don't have to

• The #1 thing that everyone should do when transitioning a relationship (and that most people get wrong)

• The most important part of breaking up that can best set you up for friendship later